Specialist SEN Solicitor
4th October 2021.
You can’t please everyone can you…
People often say that you shouldn’t try to please everyone, as you are just destined for failure if you try. For example, you will hear people say things like: “You can’t please all of the people all of the time” or: “You can please some of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time”.
I do realise the inherent logic of this principle and, most of the time, I honestly tend to agree with it from my own experiences. However, personally, I actually still think that, even if this is so, you should still try your best to please as many people as you can, as much of the time that you can!
So, whenever I try to do something, I genuinely try to accommodate as many people as I can, by actively trying to consider their potential needs, even if those needs may be very different to mine. I also always try and make what I say or do as palatable as possible, to as many people as I can.
Also, if there is something that you are going to say or do that could be misinterpreted, no matter how clear you think that is, then it is usually best not to do or say it. You can think it, but don’t say it, as I like to tell people. And, even though people may seem receptive outwardly to what you say or do at the time, remember that they may think of it differently inwardly, but will just not tell you what they really think.
In fact, it may actually come as a bit of a shock to you if you only find out later that you have upset them. The irony of this is that other people may have been careful not to say anything to you, so as to try not to upset your feelings, whereas you were not so careful before this, to try to not upset their feelings!
And just a final thought, actions always speak louder than words. So, don’t only think of yourself when you say or do something, think of other people, especially children, who may hear or see you. If they hear you say something that they see you then do not try to do genuinely, they may unconsciously take this on board and then may do the same to you in the future.
In this week's SEN Update, you will find sections entitled:
I know how busy everyone always is, so please feel free just to read the sections that are of interest to you or read everything; the choice is always yours.
Not much to report this week, although I noticed on the Council for Disabled Children's website a page entitled: "Minister for Children and Families, Will Quince MP, gives keynote speech at nasen Live 2021 addressing the SEND Review" which you may find of interest.
In terms of news, here are the articles that I found of interest this week:
Air pollution likely cause of up to 6m premature births, study finds
Failing social care system reflected in relentless rise in Ombudsman’s upheld complaints
12% of English pupils report continuing Covid symptoms weeks after infection
Again, aside from clicking on the relevant links for more information, I would also remind you of the very useful resources and information provided on the following websites:
- Council for Disabled Children
- Special Needs Jungle
I would also highlight again the magazines: SEN Magazine and Autism Eye which are both very helpful to any parents or professionals involved with children/young people with SEN.
And this week I also want to highlight that 1st - 31st Oct 2021 is ADHD Awareness Month and draw attention to the Changing Perceptions: Virtual Conference 2021 taking place virtually between 6th to the 9th of October, collaboratively run by The ADHD Foundation: Neurodiversity Charity and ADHD Ireland, which they say will facilitate the largest ADHD conference in Europe.
Keep safe until next week.
With best wishes
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