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YOU NEVER KNOW HOW FAR YOU CAN GO, UNTIL YOU GO TOO FAR...

Douglas Silas
13th April 2026

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Today, I want to talk about why you never really know how far you can go, until you go too far! Unfortunately, we all have limitations in our minds, and it's only when we step back and look at them properly that we realise that these limitations are mostly invisible.
Have you noticed how we spend half our lives building walls around ourselves with limitations we create in our own minds, but spend the other half wondering what’s on the other side? It's only by pushing forward, by testing them, by stumbling beyond where we thought the edge was, that we truly understand what’s possible.
We often convince ourselves that we're being responsible, but actually, we're mostly just letting our anxiety make decisions for us.  We're therefore only really just guessing at our potential. Playing safe always feels like wisdom, but it often turns out to just be fear wearing a sensible mask.
The only real way to know our boundaries is to approach them and deliberately cross them on purpose! When you think about it, every person you admire in life has usually ventured into uncertain territory, messed up, and gone too far, but has then learnt things. That's how growth works.
Here are some examples.

• Imagine an athlete who trains past what their coach says is possible, but  then discovers that the limits they perceived are merely psychological ones. What seemed impossible previously is now their baseline, because they pushed the boundaries and found they could go further in practice than they thought in theory.
• Consider a creator who has spent many years creating in an approved style, but who then abandons that style entirely for something that feels more real to them. Most attempts initially fail; however, the ones that don’t end up being successful and helps define their career.
• Think of a founder who launches their business with their own savings and who then has a one-way ticket to uncertainty. They initially fail and continue to fail at first, but each failure teaches them more than they could ever have learned from reading books, or at business school.

​However, not all boundary-crossing is wisdom. Sometimes, it's just thoughtless or reckless. It's not about whether you fail, because you will probably fail at first; it’s whether you’re willing to learn from that failure and then adjust things in the future based on the things you discover from it.
So today, remember that you don't actually understand your limitations until you're close enough to them. This sometimes means you sometimes need to go too far to realise them. Remember, you never know how far you can go, until you go too far!

​​With good wishes
 
Douglas

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